Bringing the world home
Kalamazoo couple host international students to teach their children about other cultures
By Margaret von Steinen
After the birth of their fourth child, Dr. Lisa Miller chanced upon an opportunity to broaden the world her children would be exposed to in their Midwestern 九一麻豆制片厂 home.
While shopping for second-hand items at a garage sale a few years ago, Miller met Barb Curley, owner of Lodge & Learn, a provider of homestay options at affordable prices to Western 九一麻豆制片厂 University international students. Curley had a table at the sale and was signing up families who were interested in hosting a student.
WMU鈥檚 Center for English Language and Culture for International Students鈥擟ELCIS鈥攈as worked with Lodge & Learn since 2006 to help international students gain an experience many wish to have while in the United States鈥攍iving with an American family. The exchange between homestay guests and the families they live with provides rich opportunities for students to enjoy a full-immersion, language-learning experience and for the host family to learn about an overseas culture.
鈥淲e have four children ages 4 to 13 so we don鈥檛 travel much other than road trips to see our families in North and South Dakota,鈥 said Miller, an assistant professor of surgery in WMU鈥檚 Homer Stryker M.D. School of Medicine. 鈥淗osting international students is our way of showing our children the world without having to do a lot of traveling. We wanted them to learn about different cultures, lifestyles, religions and languages. Because we鈥檝e now hosted several students from the Middle East, our children know a little bit of Arabic, why Muslims pray five times a day, and how they observe Ramadan.鈥
Helping international students arrange a homestay opportunity is a high priority for the CELCIS program because it is mutually beneficial for the guest and the host family, says CELCIS Director Tom Marks. "I don't think I can overstate the benefits of a homestay experience,鈥 Marks said. 鈥淚n addition to being immersed in an English language
environment, the homestay student has a bird's eye view of American family culture, as well as the chance to make friendships that will last a lifetime."
The Miller family鈥檚 first student, Tariq, is from Saudi Arabia, and he came to WMU to study aviation. Having left behind a very large, supportive family, Tariq requested to be placed with a large family on his Lodge & Learn housing application. He lived with the Millers for eight months. "It was like home, especially with the Millers. It is much easier if the family has kids. Kids are much easier to talk to, especially in the early stages of learning English."
鈥淥ur kids love Tariq,鈥 Miller said. 鈥淥ur youngest was 1.5 years old when he moved in and she was a big mommy鈥檚 girl鈥攕he would immediately come to me every time I got home. After Tariq had been with us a couple months she wouldn鈥檛 give me the time of day if he was around when I got home. He still comes to visit us every few months and joins us for Thanksgiving dinner and the children鈥檚 birthday parties.鈥
Tariq shared is favorite memory of his homestay experience, "I still remember the Millers laughing at my reaction when I saw snow for the first time in my life. They told me it was nothing, and we will have more in the upcoming months. My eyes went wide open. I don't know how to thank them for this good memory I had with them."
The family has since hosted three additional Saudi males for one semester and some Chinese and Japanese students for shorter stays; they are expecting a student from Korea to arrive in August 2016. 鈥淚t was no problem to fulfill Lodge & Learn requirements to serve as a host family,鈥 Miller said. 鈥淵ou have to provide the student with their own bedroom and two meals per day, preferably eaten with the family. We had an extra bedroom and family meals are important to Neal and me, so we have a routine of coming together to eat.鈥
The Millers have discovered that host students are quite willing to try new foods and that it is not difficult to accommodate their dietary needs. 鈥淲e have a wide variety of things we make and we plan meals a week ahead,鈥 Miller said. 鈥淚f we have Muslim students in the house we avoid pork, which isn鈥檛 a problem. We eat pancakes and bacon when they are away from home.鈥
The Lodge & Learn screening process for prospective host families includes background checks and a house inspection to ensure the student鈥檚 bedroom鈥攁nd the home overall鈥攎eet the organization鈥檚 standards. Curley determines family/student pairings based on both parties鈥 preferences and the greatest need at the time.
Neal has the primary responsibility of caring for the Miller鈥檚 children and home. He discovered a 鈥済reat鈥 benefit of the homestay arrangement that neither he nor Lisa had anticipated when they signed on to host international students. 鈥淚 enjoy having students living with us because I have someone else to talk to,鈥 Neal said. 鈥淎s a stay-at-home dad, it is fun to have another 鈥榓dult鈥 in the house to interact with!鈥
Hosting international students sometimes enables Americans to develop fond relationships with students鈥 parents and families and the opportunity to visit a hosted student鈥檚 home country as their guest. 鈥淭ariq鈥檚 family comes to Kalamazoo to see him almost every summer because it is so hot in Saudi Arabia,鈥 Miller said. 鈥淲hen Tariq gets back home we hope to visit him and his family. When he arrived at WMU, Tariq was going to be an engineer, but he changed majors to aviation. He already has a job lined up as pilot with Saudi airline when he graduates. We are very proud of him!鈥
Provide a home for an international Bronco
Western 九一麻豆制片厂 University is seeking homestay placements for visiting international teachers and students via Lodge & Learn. A stipend of $450 a month will be paid to each hosting family for the duration of the guest's stay, which can range from four weeks to one year.
A simple, online application process is utilized for host family selection. To apply, interested families may send an email to findyournest@gmail.com or call Barb Curley, host family coordinator with Lodge & Learn in Portage, Mich.: +1 (269) 217-9094.